Snail Mail isn't Dead

​Whether your grandchildren live across the world or just next door, writing them notes and letters creates a place for them to share their lives with you, and for you to share yours with them. Even today, with our ability to see and hear our grandchildren instantly no matter where they are in the world, there is an important place for the written word.

If Your Grandchildren Live Far Away
​Did you ever have a pen pal as a child? Do you remember the thrill of getting a letter in the mail? (Let’s face it, it’s still exciting to get real mail!) If your grandchildren live in another city, state or country, establishing a habit of regular postal correspondence can bring you closer. Even before they can write, there are ways to make a pen pal out of your grandchildren.

• Send them coloring pages to color and send back to you.
• Print a photo of you together and send it to them.
• Write a note about a recent conversation or visit and what you liked about it. Even though they won’t be writing back, ask them questions so they recognize the opportunity for two-way communication.
• Send them plain, stamped, self-addressed postcards to draw on and send to you.

​As they get older, make your notes longer and ask more questions. Kids love to hear about when their parents were young, so your memories of their mom or dad provide a treasure trove of material for your letters. Send them notepaper and stamps, even addressing the envelopes until they are old enough to do so themselves. With any luck, you’ll soon have an enthusiastic correspondent!

​If Your Grandchildren Live Nearby
​Just because your grandchildren live close enough for frequent visits doesn’t mean there isn’t room for written exchanges. In addition to the ideas above, there are some special ways to engage your grandkids.

• Leave notes under their pillow.
• Start a message jar: put a message in before they visit. Have pen and paper nearby so they can leave a message for you.
• Have them help you write notes to friends and family members, or to send birthday cards to cousins.
• Start an interactive journal: get a blank book and share your thoughts on something with them, then let them take it home to share theirs with you. This is especially good for teens!

Not only will you be starting a special tradition with your grandchildren, you’ll be helping them learn how to express themselves with the written word—a valuable (and marketable) skill!

Do you have other ideas for making written correspondence a part of your relationship with your grandchildren? Please share in the comments!